Definition of adult (Oxford English Dictionary)
its a strange thing to wonder…
i spent my life in employment in teaching working with teenagers –
- the ones who think they know it all,
- blame you when they are in trouble and
- give you no credit when the achieve success
- they huff
- take generalised comments as personal offenses
- weep and wail as love lives change
- and in my choir work their arses off – took dog’s abuse – and NEVER EVER let me down!
- keep in contact for years afterwards
- have so many close friendships that began as pupil/teacher…
- i LOVED working with them 🙂
i suppose i was always a little bit of a leftie, and that probably extended into my classroom .
If your jumper was rolled up, you had make up on, but you were doing your best – that was ok for me!
If you were an ” awkward fit”…a “challenging child” who was not considered easy to get work from, that didn’t bother me – we worked out a relationship of our own.
Music was a subject that lent itself to one-to-one relationships, and difficult not to form ties with pupils. It, like art, is a very personal, expressive form of creation and i loved that.
The great thing about music is that musicians never stop being musicians.
You just take music froma different angle…perform, arrange, direct, enjoy, listen – you rediscover what Music meant to you befor it became your means of earning a living. Was a lovely transition into the mellow years of ill-health…
Because you are ill, you tend to fall out of contact with a lot of younger people, so i observe ADULTS now.
Also Much of the music i do now come into contact with is in an all adult context.
Whereas I understood adolescents, i will NEVER really get to terms with adults!
they are meant to be:
- fully grown
- physically mature
- mentally mature and
- emotionally mature.
So when does that happen?
I am 48.
I feel that my personality is strong. Developed. I am honest but fair. I am capable of extracting beautiful music from performers i work with.
Adults are meant to be able able to behave ! They are meant to be nice to each other. Been non political. and to have learned from the university of life that
- family – you do your best for – try!
- huffing is not an adult thing
- friendships matter – more with age
- be there for friends
- nobody is permanent- enjoy each other
- we are meant to support each other
- lifelong friends are rare and to be treasured
- adults should be life and situation savvy
- you know how much friendship carries you through
- they are too old to be childish
- they have lived enough to know that
- LIFE is TOO SHORT.
when i grow older, i want to be LESS childish
sometimes people let me down…
and by letting themselves down….
you are clearly NEVER to old to get things wrong…
I WANT TO GROW UP and GROW OLD MUSICALLY and GRACEFULLY…
like this…..enjoy….and breathe …